Lately, I've been doing a lot of soul searching. I've been thinking about what I want to live for, the sort of person I want to be, what I want to represent I've been thinking about the sort of things that I love to do, what makes me stand out. I've thought about the sort of style I want to have and essentially, how I would like to present myself to the world. For a while, I found myself going round and round, trying to find things about myself that made me stand out, I looked around and saw other ladies stood out because of their amazing style, some were labelled as ''the girl with the best shoes'' or the best hairstyles, the girl with the amazing body, the girl who's a socialite. I found myself trying to find the one thing that makes me who I am. I started to try and categorise my style, so I'd be like, ''Ok, I like the androgynous look, but I love the classy minimalist look, I love the sporty look and sometimes I like the urban Gothic look'' I just couldn't seem to find a single box that I could tick.
After a lot of thinking and speaking to friends who expressed they had similar thoughts, I realised that this is something that plagues us all. As humans, we have a natural desire to be important, to be significant and to have a unique sense of identity. So it's no wonder we spend our lives trying to figure ourselves out. I recently learned that I cannot find my identity in what I do because once I stop doing it, I lose my sense of Identity. I can no longer depend on my style to define me because the moment someone doesn't appreciate it, I will crumble. My identity cannot be in how I look and I cannot spend my life trying to present myself to the world in a fixed, packaged and perfect way. I am who I am and I do not need to put pressure on myself to be unique because by default, I am unique already. I believe God created us all as individuals, biologically, psychologically and intellectually. I should just stick to being me and only then will I truely become a unique individual.
It's better to be who you are than live your life trying to be someone else. As a girl, I understand that this concept is an extremely complex one. Most of us are busy trying to be someone that we are not. In a ploy to be an individual, we all buy the same things, we all do the same things and we can sometimes idolise the idea of being so ''different'' which in turn makes us all look the same. I believe the key to being a true individual is being yourself with all the quirks. Understand who you are and accept who you are. Once you do this, you will be able to wear what you want, when you want, without it defining who you are. You will have a new found freedom to be the best you, you could ever be. Here are a few quotes that I just love:
- “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
- ― Oscar Wilde
- “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
- ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
- “Always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else.”
- ― Judy Garland